Nov 29 2008
When Holidays Are a Time of Grief…
We all think of holidays as times for rejoicing, gift-giving, family reunions, and celebrations, and often they are. But what happens if we’re grieving a loss at a holiday? What happens when Dad’s place at the table is empty that first Thanksgiving after he’s died?
It’s tough enough to cope with grief during ordinary days of the year. But holidays can be even more difficult. It seems strange and even wrong, to see others celebrating when our hearts are so heavy with loss.
Maybe it’s not a death, but a financial setback or a job loss or a terrible diagnosis that’s suddenly turned our world upside down. How do we deal with that?
If we’re wise we’ll go to God, because Scripture says He draws near to the brokenhearted, and He longs to comfort us in our grief. It says He will never leave or forsake those who are in relationship with Him. Once we’re in the beloved, we can dump that grief in His lap, weep on His breast, and then take comfort in the truth, that He is right there with us in the grief process. It says He even weeps when we weep.
In my own times of grief, and there have been many, I had one of two choices to make. I could carry it alone and tough it out on my own, or I could dump it in God’s lap and let Him wrap me in His warm embrace and comfort me in ways no human ever could.
We serve a God who feels our hurts and bottles our tears–that’s how much He cares.
If you’re struggling with grief from a loss this holiday season, know that Jesus cares. He wants you to come to Him, talk to Him, tell Him how you feel, and then let go of the grief that only He can carry.
He loves you and wants to be the lifter of your head and your Comforter. I pray for you today, that Jesus would be everything you need to carry you through.
In fact Psalm 28:6-9 says: “Blessed be the Lord, because He has heard the voice of my supplication. The Lord is my strength and my shield. My heart trusts in Him, and I am helped. Therefore my heart exults, and with my song I shall thank Him. The Lord is their strength, and He is a saving defense of His anointed. Save Thy people, and bless Thine inheritance. Be their shepherd and carry them forevermore.”
If you are in grief, draw near to God and He will draw near to you…
Because of His great love,
Nancy